ALL THE FEELINGS…
Oh, feelings. Ooey-gooey, complicated, messy, uncomfortable feelings. Showing the most vulnerable parts of our soul in a bleeding mess of emotions is terrifying, because we feel judged, rejected, teased, or told we are overreacting, and our feelings become invalidated. And? Maybe we’ve denied empathy to other people, too, when they’ve exhibited emotions, and so we feed a terrible cycle that forces people to hide their sentiments deeply inside their hearts.
Feelings are not rational, however -- that is why they are feelings! When someone is afraid of something, suffers from depression or is simply jealous of another person – the ‘feelings’ part of that isn’t coming from a logical ‘thinking’ place. Honoring how you feel, vs. repressing things, lets you deal with the moment and then take action. The key is truly what you do with your feelings (and knowing how to take care of yourself when you’re not in the right venue to fully express them). By the same token, how you deal compassionately with others when they exhibit feelings they don’t know what to do with is only fair. Should someone just haul off and clock you because they’re angry? Of course not. Should you stand up in tears at your sister’s wedding because she’s getting married and you’re not? Also inappropriate. But simply ordering someone not to feel something, or making out that their feelings are an overreaction diminishes them as a person and invalidates them. Reacting to someone in this manner instead of being patient never, ever helps! I know. Adulting is hard =)
Designer & Stylist: Peggy Khoucasian / Writer: Christie Cole
Photographer: Camila Cardozo / Model: Katrina Amato