“I am a warrior in the time of women warriors; the longing for justice is the sword I carry.”
~Sonia Johnson, American Feminist Activist & Writer
There’s a scene in a brilliantly simple yet powerful movie called The Perks of Being a Wallflower, where a 15-year- old boy named Charlie asks his English teacher for some advice about a female friend for whom he cares deeply.
“Why do nice people chose the wrong people to date?” he asks with sincerity.
The reply is so heartbreakingly honest, it ‘makes’ the movie for me:
“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
I open with this story because it speaks deeply to what I mean by ‘raise your daughters to be warriors.’ I don’t mean raise them in the traditional sense of a warrior - fighting their way through life, pointing fingers at the supposed wrong-doers or battling external wars that often times only breed more injustice, misalignment and disconnection.
By warrior, I mean a woman who loves and honors herself enough to do one of the toughest things there is to do: work on herself.
That is the warrior I speak of. It’s a longing to be whole. A longing for a woman to remember who she really is, and of the compassionate warrior she’ll need to be, to truly survive this inner battle.
And so that a woman’s path is not so weary, we teach her young, yet we do not hesitate to be a model for the warrior’s way at any age.
- Teach her to uncover and surrender the beliefs and the values that are out of integrity from what she says she wants.
- Guide her to courageously take a regular look in the mirror to honestly see what thoughts and sources have been guiding her most undesirable behaviors and experiences (often these are on auto-pilot).
- Encourage her to listen to her own stories and her repetitive language, and to be willing to do what it takes to re-write and re-wire those ideologies in honor of making the most out of her precious existence.
- Empower her to expand, define and refine the character traits she’ll need to develop to move beyond her perceived limitations.
- Enable her to bring her full self to the word. And remember always to lead by example.
The scene in the movie ends by Charlie asking another thoughtful question, “Can we make them know they deserve more?”
His teacher’s reply? “We can try.”
BIO: Amber Campion is an internationally recognized mindfulness teacher and sought-after life and business strategist. She is known for combining the practical with the ‘magical & for truly life enhancing results. She has been teaching neuroscience backed mind/body practices for more than a decade and is the founder of DRM: Dynamic Release Method. Through her esteemed coaching programs, trainings and retreats, she has guided hundreds of people to connect more authentically with their potential, develop healthier relationships and cultivate a deeper sense of fulfillment in their lives. Amber holds trainings and retreats worldwide in Mindfulness, Conscious Leadership and Personal Development. She is currently writing her first book about creating fulfillment in your most important relationships by re-defining your models of intimacy, connection and success.
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