Responsibility is Simply the Ability to Respond
Life happens. We have all found ourselves in ongoing painful situations. We blame outside circumstances as the problem. It’s my boss, it’s my husband, it’s not having enough hours in the day, it’s that slow-driving car in front of us that made us late for our appointment. It’s everyone and everything else but me! The world is out to get me! The thing is – blaming outside circumstances simply fosters hopelessness and gives away our power to change our lives. Regardless of how our situation came about, and whether it is fair or unfair, in reality, the only reason we are still in the same place is because some part of us unconsciously decided to be. Some part of us said it’s outside of our realm to change our lives and this is how it’ll always be. Yikes!!
The important question is to ask – what am I doing right now to transform this painful situation into something that creates value for my future? How can I hone my ability to respond to this situation and take responsibility for my own happiness?
It can be terrifying to think that we have to roll our own sleeves up and be the ones to do the work to change things in our lives. It may even make us feel resentful that we have to pull out the dustpan and sweep away the refuse from a situation we feel like we did not create. But the alternative is wallowing in our own misery waiting for someone else to do it for us.
It may mean we need to go down a road we don’t know, get uncomfortable and truly have a spirit that seeks out change. That’s scary. But it can also be so freeing! Knowing that at any given moment in your life, if you don’t like how things are, you can change them, is so hopeful! Taking responsibility for your own happiness and seeing the future with a sense of love and gratitude for being alive at this very moment can be a great starting point for transforming anything painful in your life. Every journey begins with a single step, and pretty soon you’ll have all those baby steps behind you and realize, you really have come a long way, baby!
What you're supposed to do when you don't like a thing is change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it. ― Maya Angelou
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